Please enjoy today’s guest post from New Leaf Press author Clara Hinton. Clara is the author of Silent Grief and Tender Thoughts for Couples. She has personally experienced loss in many areas of her life and shares ways to lean on the Lord and trust in His Word for guidance and encouragement.
Pain and loss can enter our lives in so many different ways leaving us shattered, broken, and filled with questions. When we experience the death of a child, a
sibling, spouse, or someone who has filled a special place in our heart, we suddenly are left with a void that makes us ache to the point of feeling broken.
This grief can be devastating especially during the holiday season. As we watch others happily buying gifts, planning family meals, and baking cookies together, we feel the pain hit us like a ton of bricks. “Why? Why did this happen? And, how are we ever going to get through the days ahead?” It’s easy to fall into feelings of depression, despair, isolation, and even abandonment by our family and friends. Sometimes, we even feel forgotten by God.
Speaking from the personal experience of losing both of my parents, a teen-aged sister, a stillborn baby boy, and going through the pain of separation and divorce, I can relate to those feelings of despair and dread when facing the holidays. Throughout the years, I’ve come to understand some things that have helped me that I’d like to share with you.
It’s okay to cry. Tears are healing and are a gift from God. We each grieve differently, so we will eventually find out what works best for us. Making new traditions for the holiday season is a good thing, and will help you back into the re-entry stage of life. Do what is best for you.
Most of all, I’ve found it helps to remember who God is and to give Him our honor and praise, especially during our times of pain. God is the only one who knows us intimately. He knows our every thought, and He sees our every tear. When we praise God – truly thank Him — for all He is and all He has done, His spirit fills our emptiness with love, peace, and hope! “Our God is a mighty God and worthy to be praised” – even in our times of loss!
For further encouragement and ways to work through the process of grief, consider Clara’s book Silent Grief.